Thursday, June 11, 2009

Sarah – Week 4 - Men and Women

This week my boyfriend and I got into a heated discussion about whether or not men and women can be just friends. I was seeking his opinion as I did my discussion board for the week and he helped me clarify my point of view. Initially I felt that no, men and women cannot be just friends because sex always comes up. If sex comes up at all, how can they ever be just friends. But he felt that once the issue is addressed and dealt with, as in once one person makes it clear to the other person that they are not interested, that they can continue a friendship. But my question was that even if the issue comes up even once, that it proves men and women cannot be just friends. My male friends have been around for over 15 years, but I'd be lieing if I denied that once in our youth having relationships wasn't addressed. So can men and women be just friends without the issue of sex or relationships coming up even once? The answer in my opinion is no. I feel that the friendship can exist after the issue is addressed, but it always always comes up at least once. Men and women naturally feel closer to each other in friendships and its only natural to want that person to be your mate, but sometimes it doesn't work out that way!
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  1. Mario DJune 11, 2009 at 9:31 PM

    Sarah – the best part of courses like this is that we really do get to apply the material in our personal lives and have discussions with those closest to us. Since my daughters are 22, 19, & 18, you can ask them on any day what classes I am taking and they would be able to tell you since I ALWAYS talk to them about what I learning (I’m not so sure they share my enthusiasm). You have pointed out something that I think is the key – you must accept that at some point in a female-male friendship – SEX WILL CREEP ITS WAY INTO THE RELATIONSHIP – then no one is caught off guard when it happens – you just deal with it as friends. I think one of the problems is that no one is perfect and our mate might posses 99 out 100 qualities we look for in someone and then a friend (who happens to be the same gender as your mate) has that ONE quality you desire – naturally they begin to look attractive.

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